Sex, Relationships & F**king Podcast: The Adult “Bases” System, Porn Drone Dating & More Posted by Nathan S. on 04/10/13 | Filed under Downloads, Girls, Humor, Podcasts, Sex & Relationships

(Why a picture of Rosa Acosta? Why not.)

The response to the "Sex, Relationships & Fucking" podcast only proves that there's a real need out there for honest sex, relationships and...um...fucking advice. Or at the very least, that women getting advice from women's magazines about men is a terrible, terrible idea. That's where myself and my co-host Mike McNulty step in.

This week we kick things off by talking about an actual reader email, update the "bases" system we all used in middle school for the adult world, try to help a woman whose boyfriend is too kinky and discuss the pros cons and cons of dating someone who did porn. Plus, we trademark two new terms, "dugout" and "porn drone". Frankly, I think it's our best episode yet.

The stream and download is below the (slightly abbreviated) letters, and those interested can also listen, download and subscribe via Podomatic (iTunes coming soon).

Enjoy...

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1) "I recently got out of a long term relationship. My boyfriend and I had been dating since high school, so now that I'm back in the game, it's really my first time in the adult dating world. One of the first things I learned is that the "bases" system we all used in high school is essentially now meaningless. Another more than kissing and it seems like every guy expects me to give him a handjob, at the very least. Shouldn't there be more bases than that? Does the bases system even apply when you're an adult?"

2) "After my divorce I met a great guy. He's incredible with my two kids, and they love him. However, there's one problem: He's turned on by me having sex with other guys. He likes watching and joining in. He's also extremely kinky. He likes being dominated and having the occasional other man. He's really not into other women unless they are exceptionally slutty and willing to do things I can't mention.

Now the sex is terrible. I feel so completely unattractive! He has to take all kinds of pills to get an erection, which definitely doesn't help my self-esteem. Plus, he works alone, from home, and basically has no friends, and so I'm beginning to suspect he's seeking excitement elsewhere. I love the guy! He’s my best friend! I can’t imagine my life without him. But I need to have intimacy and feel attractive! I can't talk about this with my friends or even my therapist."

3) Just over a year ago, I started dating my boyfriend. He’s educated, kind, solid, interesting, handsome, and 10 years older than I am. When I asked if dating women my age was typical for him, he replied “no”—but added that his last girlfriend was my age. Of course a friend and I looked her up on Facebook, and we became intrigued as her clothes became fewer and fewer as we scrolled down. More friends were called in to laugh and give feedback as a Google search ensued.

I confessed my hilarious stalking session to my boyfriend. He said the nude photos also bothered him, but it wasn’t a big deal, and 10 months happily passed. Then last month he mentioned that his ex had starred in pornographic movies. Photos are one thing—porn is another. When I heard it, my blood boiled! I couldn’t believe it! He not only demonstrated profoundly bad judgment, but he could be damaging my health.

My boyfriend’s nondisclosure feels like a violation. (I don’t expect others to have the same expectations related to sex as I do.) Of course I ended up watching about three dozen videos. Many were so hard-core and unpleasant my head nearly exploded. It’s been three weeks, and I’m still upset! I don’t know what to do, and I’m not sure I can get past it. It makes me sick to my stomach almost every day. I need some help."